A good friend never asks about the things you don’t wanna talk about. She doesn’t pester you with questions you don’t want to answer. She respects that you need time and privacy to deal with certain things, and keeps her distance from that subject. She talks about the things that make you feel better instead. There are some really nosy people out there who have a hard time keeping out of others’ businesses, and a true friend never does those things.
A real friend never continues to ask after you’ve said ”I don’t wanna talk about it”. She doesn’t make a big deal of the fact that you don’t wanna talk about it, because she understands that you have a good reason behind it. She says “okay” and naturally moves on to a different subject.
A good friend never brings up stuff that will only bring you down. Not unless it’s necessary, and a good friend knows when it is and when she’s just being disturbingly curious.
Nice post there! So true.
It seems like someone’s poking you to death just to know some secrets!
Well, girls can be a bit nosy(and stubborn) sometimes. Don’t be so hard on them, maybe they care about you in a “different” way?
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Well I’m not being hard on them. I rant a lot here but that doesn’t necessarily mean I confront the people for real. I prefer avoiding confrontations if I can, cuz if I do end up doing it, I can’t help myself from “being hard”. I have this annoying habit of slamming the truth and comments into people’s faces so hard it seems rude. I’m a bit too impatient to go around these things
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I know my friends well enough to understand the difference between plain curiousity and real care… and they should know me well enough to understand that when I do want to keep something a secret, there is a damn good reason why.
Point taken!
May be that’s why “male” friends (not boyfriends!) are a bit easy to get along with. LOL. At least they don’t poke you the whole day for knowing every little problems(secrets?) you encounter. Not every girls have this tendency though… Well, girls care “too much” i think(and curious of course). They want to know every single problem and maybe even try to give you suggestion and advice or try to make you feel okay (Apart from the fact that they scold at every little bad habits of yours, they’re perfectionists!), yeah that’s sweet but i don’t like diggin’ up the things i don’t wanna remember.
I have a bad habit of being rude when I’m angry/not in the mood. And most of the times I’m talking about those “don’t wanna talk about” stuffs, makes me $%^&$#@#$…
I prefer not to look at the sex differences, cuz I’ve had encounters with nosy males as well. And either way, being a girl or being a boy isn’t an excuse… at least not for these things. If you’re a real friend you’re supposed to understand your friend, and know why she/he reacts the way she/he does. If you don’t know your friend, well then obviously you aren’t close friends.
I am a very straightforward person and not among those girls who go like “oh it’s nothing… i’m fine”, when they’re actually waiting for the other person to keep poking till they blurt the truth out. If there is something I wanna share, I do it. It’s as simple as that.
“and not among those girls who go like “oh it’s nothing… I’m fine”, when they’re actually waiting for the other person to keep poking till they blurt the truth out”
LOL. So so so true!
Yup if we’re talking about friends in general we better not bring the boy vs. girl thing, but I said what I’ve experienced (no offense), and prolly I don’t have a nosy male friend. haha.
Anyway, keep writing, keep sharing and try to be a bit more happy okay?
Take care
-farhan
Well… from experience I can say boys are more curious about girls than they are about boys… so if you were a girl then maybe you’d experience the nosy-ness of your male friends
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More happy? That was an awful small amount of material you used there to judge me as unhappy
. I think you chose the wrong word. If you’re pointing towards my cynicism, I advice you to read the description of this blog (which you can find at the end of the blog). It says “The moderately cynical and strategically optimistic scribbler just trying to find her way with life.” 
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Thanks for commenting, again.
I’m not judging anything actually. I didn’t even meet you in person or know you well, I can’t judge you by reading just a single blog post either… I’m not saying you’re being pessimist or selfish or cynic or whatever. Don’t take me wrong.
I had bad times, everyone does. I’m just a simple person who has just brought himself up from a miserable life to what i am right now, well, I at least try to look everything positively that’s all. Reading your post made me realize you’re a bit “disturbed” (wrong word again?) or something bothering you.
You don’t necessarily need to be “unhappy” to be “a bit more happy”, right?
Hope I made my point, keep smiling…
ciao!
Well what you did is judging. Suggesting me to be a bit more happy suggests that you think I am not. And not thinking I’m happy is a judgement.
Anyway… you can’t tell by one post what my mood is. Not unless you’ve been following me for a while, which I don’t think you have. Look, I don’t mean to be rude or anything… it just bothers me when people land in and come with all these pointers. I have readers who have followed me for months, or maybe even years, and even they don’t do it. It’s just you have to have known me or read my posts for a while to understand what type of person I am, and how much impact single events have on me.
Well, that’s me… and I can’t do anything about it.
anyway, I give up! :s
I rarely advice people and I don’t require anyone to change. That’s all personal. I merely observe and clarify. And I do not understand what it is that you’re giving up..?
i love when a good friend doesnt pick on the scab or issue…
but then there are times i just WANT my good friend to ask me about my pain…it lightens me up that way. sometimes.
we need more good friends in the world. I absolutely loved this post rinth!!! you are a great thinker my friend
Yeah of course, there are those situations too when you just want someone to reach out for you. But there is a difference and real friends have that kind of understanding to tell the difference.
Thank you so much eva, it means a lot
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